Greetings, readers. If you could go back to any time or place in your life and make 1 change, what would it be? Would you not marry your spouse? Perhaps, not to buy that used car that every one of your friends said was the wrong choice? Would you take job A over job B? As I wrote many years ago, life does not have a reset button. Here are a few of my…, well…, not-so-great choices. Then, I shall choose the 1.
First off, I had young lady friend in 11th. grade. I shan’t mention her name. She was very pretty, was bright and beat my sorry butt at pool every game. We weren’t the most romantic couple you’ve ever seen, but I was hung up on another girl I had zero chance to win the affections of. If I had put all my attention towards my pool playing girl, our relationship might have blossomed, and developed into a lasting relationship. An opportunity misused.
Next, my junior college girlfriend, Paula. I so loved her. She was very shy and not extremely outgoing. She had her few friends, one being her twin sister, Jean. We were pre-engaged. What does that mean? Well, she liked the idea of getting engaged, but I was old-fashioned. I was going to ask her father for her hand. But, before it got that far…, one night…, I got scared and called it off. If I live to be 110, I will never forget the hurt look on that girl’s face. I completely misread shyness for lack of enthusiasm. And no, even though I begged to be taken back, Paula refused.
Finally, around 1987, I dropped out of Penn State. My nerves couldn’t take it. I was a wreck. Back then, I didn’t know just how bad my cerebral palsy was. And, just by chance, I later discovered that I am slightly dyslexic. Oh boy, does that explain a lot of things! If I had toughed it out though, perhaps I’d have graduated and gotten a career going. Instead, I work at a cafe. Don’t get me wrong now, I love my job, co-workers and regular customers. The old expression, “what could have been” is always fluttering around in my mind.
So…, which one? Well, I have to say that my junior college girlfriend wins out. Paula and I could have taken it slow, got married, had a baby or two and ridden off into the sunset. Perhaps not. We might have been married for 6 years, gotten a horrible divorce, fought over the house, car and kids…, STOP! Ooff, madness! But I’ll never know because I got scared.
What is the time and place moment you might do over? Let us know. Until Monday, take care, have a great weekend, love one another, give your pet a hug, and as always, happy reading.